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3 Ways To Transform Stress In Your Home

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“As we head into the dark time of year, let’s take a moment to check in with our practice of compassion, for ourselves and others. Let’s notice our reactions as we encounter pain and suffering, our own and that of others. Notice when we open our hearts and make friends with the discomfort and when we go into fear, anger, resistance or stuckness. Our heads might not know where we are at, but our bodies can give us loads of information.”
–Sacred Circle Dance

We are experiencing an unprecedented exposure to media, download of EMFs and anxiety over global events. These kinds of stress undermine our sense of safety and control in the world. If you are having difficulty sleeping; concerned for your family’s safety; wondering how to minimize conflict at home, on the road and in the workplace, there is a way to help your life go right. Not only compassion transforms stress, creating your home as your center of strength can help you act with confidence in an uncertain world. If you are ready to make-over your home, here are three key areas that will help you revolutionize your inner state and create a sense of safety.

Begin with those who make life easier.
Look to the front right corner as you face into the house, this is Chien, Helpful People help us accomplish what we set out to do. In the I-Ching this area is represented by Heaven. Heaven Ch’i is effortless in its ability to manifest.

  • Activating this niche with a Feng Shui adjustment draws Heaven onto Earth. Placing a sacred object here invites the people and sets up the events that come to your aide. An image or statue of dragon (no red dragons for that is a cooked dragon), horses, a goose, lion or elephant represent this area. You could hang an image of a special place that you have traveled to or long to visit. Or mount a wall clock for this gua is associated with time. How we manage our time is a mark of success. Make your visualization precise.

Hold your family together.
Locate the center of your home. A strong center can contain you and your loved in the thick of the intricacies of everyday life. If the center of your home is weak, your life can spin out of control. Check for the following details.

  • A stairway in the center creates instability which can lead to worry and restlessness. Loss of Ch’i can destroy your sense of peace and leak energy from the entire house and your energy too. Hang a wind-chime or a mirror at the top of the stairway. Or paint the railing green.
  • A bathroom in the center will deplete all the life situations that the Bagua contains. Your life’s resources will either vanish slowly or be depleted in an immediate surge down the drain.
    Place a mirror on the outside of the bathroom door. This “transcendentally” removes the bathroom by reflecting what is in front of the mirror, hence the bathroom “disappears”.
  • Other details that should be avoided in the middle of the house: boiler; motor; electrical service box – your main disconnect; oven; fireplace; generator. If something electrical or hot exists in the middle of the house, you can paint it green or decorate it with a green plant or place a green plant on top of it.

Avoid dissonance and exhaustion.
Walk to your bedroom. Check to see if your bed is placed on the edge of a “cleaver” shaped room.

  • If the master bed is on the edge of the cleaver, words may be cutting and sharp. This creates dissonance among family members that can spread beyond the walls of your home and impinge upon your life in exhausting ways. If you have a cleaver shaped bedroom, place a mirror on the wall opposite the bed to pull the bed off the knife edge. 
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If you want more information about design that contributes to stress, lack of safety, ill health and conflict, check out Floor Plans Matter. I describe one design feature in each of nine floor plans. My hope is that you start to think of your home as your source to regenerate your energy where you can face the world with good humor, trust and feel empowered to make a change for your own good.

Have you decided this will be your year? “Boldness has genius”… start with one hour of Feng Shui A La Carte. One hour with me can transform your current situation. Think of it as a fairy godmother for your house.

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Remembering Mother And A Moment of Love

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“We are born of love, love is our mother.”
–Rumi

At what moment did your mom endow you with grace? For me I was in 7th grade. My skirt zipper broke and as my skirt made its descent to the floor, up rose the color in my face. I called Mom to help me. She came with love and safety pens. Presentable again, I kissed her and said how much it meant to me. Though the safety pens eased me into my skirt, it was her coming to my rescue that eased my distress. Feeling loved and in tact, I walked back into the class room with my head held high. At the end of her life she reminded me of this story. I was so touched that this awkward moment for me had such a profound effect on her, it took my breath away. She said with a smile of endearment, “It felt good to help you, darling.” It was a special moment for her, in the school bathroom helping her daughter.

Motheris the essence of love. It was through her openness, patience, yielding and responsiveness that you were conceived. In the nine months that her belly grew round and large so did her dream of you. These same qualities shape the womb of your dreams. They are the pre-requisites that direct your intuition and inspiration to influence outward events, allowing synchronicity to validate your pathway. Mother is there when you make your first sandcastle, write your essay and paint your watercolor. In adulthood it is the memory of this love that could help you dare to do all sorts of things.

Motherin the home is in the far right corner of your house. In the I-Ching it is called K’un. The English translation is The Receptive. In the Bagua this area represents Relationship. If you desire a fulfilling connection with your mother or sisters; wish to build a container of good health for your organs or find a partner, then initiate change in this yielding place. A sacred object here reflects both stillness (yin) and the creative (yang). The complement of energies will birth your dreams.

Mother–lover, creator, nurturer–is the model for all of your relationships. Honor her struggles, forgive her transgressions, appreciate she did the best that she could, understand she gave you what time she had and you will find the world an easier place to live. Be receptive to these ideas like the moon that reflects the sun, and you will move forward with a new sense of ease and power.

Because your Mother is generally the first one to come to your rescue, I want to share this cure with you.
Worried About Someone Cure
When we love someone they are in our thoughts, we want to see them happy, protected and free. Mothers, in particular, have concern for their children. If your child is planning his or her first sleep over with a friend, if they are away at college or married with their own children, you may wonder if they are doing alright. There may be something more serious like an illness or your child expresses they aren’t adjusting to their situation. Whatever their age, relationship or situation, there is something you can do be ease your mind and help. Using this cure, you can hold the person in your heart and see him or her well, strong, safe and protected. You are binding auspicious ch’i to their body.

Materials:
Red ribbon (or thread), 6”, 9” or 18”; Scissors

Procedure:
Place the ribbon under your mattress for nine nights. On the tenth day, cut the ribbon in half. Give one half to the person about whom you are worried. If necessary mail it and tell them what you are doing. However, they do not have to know about the cure. You can sew the ribbon into a piece of clothing that you send as a gift, or simply wrap the gift with the ribbon. Remember, your intention needs to be pure if you make this decision on your own. The person must simply accept the ribbon (even if he or she does not know about the cure). If the person does know, he or she may be willing to place it under the pillow or mattress, or carry it all the time. Place the second half of the ribbon either under your pillow or your mattress, or carry it with you all the time. Reinforce with a prayer of intention visualize their protection and safety. If you feel a moment of worry, take the ribbon out and wrap it around the finger that is associated with the person about whom you are concerned.

Some examples: If you are worried about your child who is away at school, wrap the ribbon around your little finger. Loosen it, and wrap it again around the little finger. Do this for a total of nine times. Visualize your child safe and well. If you are worried about your husband, wrap the ribbon around your ring finger then loosen and wrap eight more times for a total of nine times. Visualize him safe and well, and perhaps thinking of you. If you are worried about your mother, wrap the ribbon around your thumb, and repeat the process outlined above.

 Happy Mother’s Day! 

Have you decided this will be your year? “Boldness has genius”.. start with one hour of Feng Shui A La Carte. Think of it as a fairy godmother for your house.

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