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How Feng Shui Cures Put Your Worry To Bed!

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“Trust yourself. You’ve survived a lot and you’ll survive whatever is coming.”
– Robert Tew

Worry is like a thief, it steals the goodness you deserve.

If you’ve repeatedly missed out on opportunities, wake up with headaches; regularly overlooked for a promotion at work; or daily argue with your partner over money in the same location in your home, Feng Shui would say you have a worry problem initiated by your home’s design. In this blog I share five “uncommon” design features that trigger worry and catch you off guard which can lead to missing lucky breaks and failing to see favorable openings. The following scenarios reveal that what isn’t readily apparent has an influence over behavior and interactions. The power in Feng Shui design is that by changing your environment, you alter your circumstances which allows you to bank on the good fortune that will flow into your life.

A knife edge at the front door.
A design feature I see frequently at the front entry is a corner that faces you as you enter into your home. In the Chinese language it is known as “sha ch’i”. This corner creates a knife edge and it can metaphorically cut you with headaches, distress, feeling at loss and low self esteem. If you are being criticized or learn that someone is backstabbing you, look for “sha ch’i” behind you or to your side while you work at your desk. In both of these circumstances your brain only knows there is danger directed at it. The amygdala’s job is to keep you safe, it sets up signals to get your attention in the form of anxiety. Not attending to the perceived danger creates prolonged stress in your body and an auto immune illness may likely ensue. Soften the knife edge with a string of faux pearls hung from the ceiling in increments of nine (depending on the height of your walls) or hang a 50 mm faceted crystal on a red cord in increments of nine. See the edge blunted by the light of the crystal or softened by the flow of the pearls.

Seeing a kitchen from the front door.
Whatever room you see when you enter the house influences your Ch’i and behavior. One client saw her bedroom and would take afternoon naps instead of walking to manage her weight. A game room would entice you to play video games or over indulge in media, maybe for hours neglecting important responsibilities like preparing dinner or late to pick up your children. Seeing the kitchen would be especially difficult for a person who struggles with an eating disorder or has issues with irritable bowel syndrome or any number of digestive issues. Worry that neighbors and friends might find out, they may obsess, feeling they would be judged which can lead to self deprecating thoughts and behavior.

Wealth gua missing with a “run through kitchen”.
This combo pertains to partners who worry and argue over finances. If the good Wealth gua is missing the couple may feel blocked, unsupported and carry on nightly heated discussions over finances. A “run through kitchen” is a design feature where the stove is situated between two doors that are directly aligned (in the kitchen). In this situation worry undermines trust and stability erodes between partners. Hang from the ceiling a 50 mm faceted crystals or a wind chime strung with a red cord anywhere between the two doors. Visualize the sharp Ch’i running between the two doors softens and dissipates. Compatibility and trust reawaken between the partners.

Sleeping with the bed on the door wall.
When the bed is on the same wall as the bedroom door, the brain cannot see who is coming through the door, it cannot protect you from threats of any kind. Your mind will spiral and it is a dark dance during the night of worry and angst. Over a prolonged period health issues such as insomnia, mood swings, headaches including migraines and heart trouble, e.g. arrhythmia, develop. Mental and emotional stress may accompany these and develop into more acute health issues. The adjustment is to place a mirror that reflects both the bed and the door. A beautiful fashion mirror will serve this purpose well. Off set it from the bed so it faces the door and when you awaken you can see who or what (your precious pets) is walking through the door.

Desk is out of command position.
Most desks are placed up against a wall to save space. If you work off site, your home office is generally designated as a multi-purpose room. This position of the desk is referred to as “out of command”. If a person walks through the door their unannounced appearance will startle you and the distraction initiates an imbalance within the brain. It may take up to an hour to calm your mind and return your focus and concentration to your task. During that recovery period precious time is lost that could have been used to develop a new idea or organize your work space. If it happened once it could happen again. Worry becomes a flurry of disorganized thoughts based on fear and anxiety. According to Professor Lin lack of command at the desk creates:
A sense of danger
An inability to see both opportunity and trouble coming
A narrow point of view
An outdated perspective
An old self-image
A lack of control in the world
A lack of support and good advice
Heart trouble
Being accident prone
If the desk must remain in the current position place a mirror (the size should be the length of the desk and as tall as the tallest person who sits in the desk chair). Seeing your image relaxes the brain, worry takes a holiday and you immerse yourself into finishing your projects.

There are more design details on this list. If you didn’t see one here that is relevant to your space, I am available to look over your floor plan with my Feng Shui A La Carte offering. We could get down and pinpoint what isn’t working then design Feng Shui solutions that will line your drawers with prosperity, catalyze your goals, sprinkle your life with joy and help you attain your vision of success. It would be my pleasure.

Do you want to grow your business or improve what is already a good relationship with home, family, your job or partner, I would be happy to help you with your place. I am also available for a “Your House Is Talking”  consultation service  as well as the Feng Shui A La Carte. I look forward to talking to you soon! 503-232-2543 or bette@shenmenfengshui.com.

What I have discovered about our homes is that creating a heart healthy space leads to peace and contentment. The bedroom is where it begins. Start with my complimentary pdf: 27 Bedroom Concepts To Maximize Your Health, Happiness and Peace of Mind. Design your space to your best advantage. Subscribe to my blog and special offers. You’ll receive this valuable Feng Shui Guide as a thank you gift.

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Fall Reset. The Benefits Of Letting Go.

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“Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on.”
– Eckhart Tolle

Do you love the radiance of an autumn day? Are you inspired by a vibrant landscape of deep reds and brilliant oranges? Do you relish cool crisp evenings of a physical richness that warms your bones like smelling crossed buns baking in the oven, you snuggled in a fuzzy sweater sipping on hot tea by a fire where you turn your attention to holiday preparation?

But did you know seasonal changes have a universal importance as well? Letting go in Autumn what you have accumulated aligns with Nature’s time. It aligns your mind and your body’s internal clock which is important to your mental and physical health.

In technology a reset “clears any pending errors or events and brings a system to normal condition”. I believe a reset to your house resets the karma of pending errors you may have inherited with your home. We see Nature resetting when leaves take their flight and trees reveal their fabulous bones in preparation for Winter rest and new life in Spring. This is humans visual cue to do the same.

At the root of a reset is release. In Chinese cosmology, Fall is the Metal Season, it is called Rising Yin and the time of year to nourish Yin energy. This season is for purging and purifying your home.  The act of clutter clearing becomes elevated to a cosmological attunement that aligns with Fall in the Five Seasons. Its place is true and meaningful in the regeneration of life.

Opening the channels in your space and opening the channels in your mind, body and spirit elevate your emotional state and create a lightness of being. BSTB purification rituals and ceremonies avail you of living in the receptive mode (“to receive” is the meaning of Yin energy) where all possibilities manifest. Think back to the opportunities, objects and relationships that were beyond your grasp over the year. A reset gives you a second chance. Before the end of October if you would focus on self care and letting go of your stuff you would see with clearer vision what is right for you. Here are methods to help you get started.

Let go first in your mind. To create a smooth process of clearing closets, drawers, the basement and garage, clear worry and anxiety from your mind. Go to bed and in the drowsy state visualize a positive vision of what you look forward to–a trip, a funny movie–whatever lightens your mind. Then see the things you love but have difficulty letting go find their way into boxes and bins, perhaps going to a friend or neighbor whom you know would be excited to receive them. You will wake up with an energized mental attitude and be more able to face the day. Do this over a period of nine nights (the number of completion and peak accomplishment). 

Clear away energetic residue next. The walls in your home retain predecessor energy unless a space blessing has been performed. Painting the walls is one level of energy clearing but for a deeper karmic cleanse I recommend “Changing the Ch’i Of The House And Transforming The Fortunes For Individuals And Residences”. The purpose is letting go the remains of old patterns, resentments and vendettas. Oranges, (lemon is stronger to expel evil spirits. Orange has a hint of auspiciousness that lemon does not have), mantras, your visualization and intention will evict any misfortune and replace it with positive, prosperous, auspicious Ch’i. Inquire with me how you can attain this time honored ceremony. Nine red envelopes are requested.

Seek balance. You too can benefit from the stringent yet refreshing quality of citrus. During the day stress accumulates in your energy. Before you can adequately release the things you have been holding onto, your mind needs to be clear. Bathe in an orange peel bath (where lemons calm, lighten and refresh, oranges are auspicious and bring good fortune). Cut nine circles from the skin of an orange, soak them in a bowl. Pour them into  warm bath water and wash your entire body, even your head. Orange’s clarifying essence removes worry and uplifts your Ch’i, helping you to balance.

See new possibilities. Place a mirror on the wall at the foot of the bed. It will allow you to see all the potential resolutions to your problems related to letting go. Set it with this intention and you will feel energized and your results will reflect your enthusiasm.

Nourish your stamina. You live in the residue of yesterday’s thought. When you avoid making a decision hold your hands left over right, thumbs together and palms up over your tan’tien (at the level of your navel). Take in a deep breath in through your mouth and visualize universal light, positive Ch’i and good luck enter and circulate throughout your body and all your cells. Exhale in eight short puffs with the last one, ninth, expelling all the negative Ch’i, bad luck and obstacles. Repeat nine times and finish with a mantra of your choice.

Ready to release. Start with five minutes at a time. This allows you to mindfully build the momentum. Give one item away a day, next day two and increase the number each day. Take the 9-9-9 challenge. Identify nine items you want to donate and nine items to be returned to their proper home. Use the four box method. One for trash, give away, keep or re-locate. Enter a room in your home and place each item into one of the following boxes. Don’t skip a single one. The Feng Shui methods I have shared will help you identify more quickly what you love and what someone else will benefit by.

Vitality for your utmost passions. Preparing your home and your mind, connects you with your senses. When the above methods are performed daily for nine days (think of creating a morning ritual with them), you by-pass the mental processes that keep you in a resistance loop. Your energy becomes liberated from your emotions. Your enthusiasm increases. Your mind is not detained by distractions. With an orderly home you can now focus your energy on the things you enjoy instead of what you worry about. Your health is optimized and the universal part of it, your subconscious mind, will respond to your will and requests.

Allow me to help you arrange your home where you feel fully supported. I am available for a full consultation service or for an hour telephone conversation. Details for Feng Shui a La Carte are at  Feng Shui A La Carte. Think of it as a fairy godmother for your house.

What I have discovered about our homes is that creating a heart healthy space leads to peace and contentment. The bedroom is where it begins. Start with my complimentary pdf: 27 Bedroom Concepts To Maximize Your Health, Happiness and Peace of Mind. Feng Shui design rejuvenates and replenishes your Ch’i. Subscribe to my blog and special offers. You’ll receive this valuable Feng Shui Guide as a thank you gift.