“If there is light in your heart, you will find your way home.”
– Rumi

According to The National Law Review’s October 16, 2020 article, the divorce rate among Americans is rising. “… (the) lockdown has exposed issues that run deeper and offered ample time for reflection, leaving couples to wonder about their options for pursuing separation during the pandemic.” This statement compels me to ask, Have you struggled within your relationship more than once this past year? Have you sought help but arguing continues? COVID and divorce are on a lot of couples’ minds. If conflict has exhausted your ability to cope, take courage, your home could hold the secret. The following Feng Shui details are underlying to marital strife and relationship problems. My hope is you receive benefit from these alternative solutions to replenish love in your relationship.

The Mouth of Ch’i
Let’s start at the front entry. The front door represents your career, your future, your reputation, your head, Helpful People and your health. You may suddenly develop a headache here or become confused. You might speak before you think which can incite anger. Possibly you’ve lost your job due to COVID and you are struggling to make ends meet. You and your partner likely have careers and this doubles your stress if your attention is on a career that is not going well. Here are some possible causes.
• A split view at the front door can adversely affect all eight guas, including Family. As the brain is stimulated unevenly, the two sides begin to lack coordination. An imbalance like this can create illness, confusion, and an inability to make decisions. There may be nonstop arguing even violence. Divorce within three to five years. A career downturn. Correcting the Feng Shui can “turn a life around.” You want “both eyes should hit the same target.” (H. H. Lin Yun). If possible place a large mirror then both eyes will be focused on the same thing. Or use real money ($100 bill ). This is a simple yet effective solution because we all need money and we can never have too much. Or hang a faceted crystal from the ceiling on a red cord. This will lift your head and your countenance may brighten watching the rainbow reflect the sunlight.
• Mandarin Duck Stairway is a type of split where one set of stairs go up to the main floor and the other go down. Use the same principal to focus the eyes on one object at the entry. Hang a faceted crystal on a red cord from the ceiling. The two hemispheres of the brain will then work together, accommodating an equitable and useful response to any situation.

Doors Talk
COVID and divorce seem to follow you from room to room? To keep two way communication open look at the doors in your home. In the Feng Shui metaphor a door is a mouth. The following door types can prevent or distort communication especially when they are in the bedroom.
• Arguing Doors are doors which bump up against one another when they are opened. The bumping creates conflict. The mundane solution is to re-hang the door or doors so that they do not touch.
• Biting Doors doors that are misaligned, they bite at each other. It is an imbalance in perception. It is headaches and other problems in the head. It is opinions that are deadlocked. It is situations that cannot be resolved. The effect is the same as a split at the front door.
• Double Doors – Partnership Ch’i can leak out of one of the doors and allow private matters to escape into the community, magnifying and/or distorting any problem.
• Empty Doors – no actual door at the bedroom entry or there isn’t an actual door between the bedroom and the bathroom. A partner may be lost due to an affair, divorce or an accident that leads to death. On the mundane level, hang a door. If not possible then a transcendental cure will work. Hang a faceted 40 mm crystal ball from a red cord at the entry. Use a red (represents power, protection and good luck) cord and you have created a more powerful adjustment.
• Door Leading To Your Bedroom At The End Of A Long Hallway. Chi might be building and coming down the hallway and it might be really hard to focus, especially if your bed is in line with that. You can easily misinterpret a simple comment from a family member or friend and it might set off a reaction that is out of proportion to the situation. Hang a faceted 40 mm crystal ball or wind chime in the hallway.
• French doors can be viewed as two doors. If there are too many French doors in a house, the occupants may often bicker and argue. Minds will be closed, prejudiced and biased. Use the ousting mudra and visualize there is harmony in the house and arguing and bickering are at an end.
• Piercing Heart Doors are where three or more doors line up and you can walk through them a straight line. These create an invisible barrier through the house, which in turn, can create a barrier between partners. As the schism widens over time, it becomes exceedingly difficult to connect with your significant other. Hang one or more crystal balls or wind chimes in the center of the rooms between the doors to slow down the Ch’i, and break down the invisible wall. Or paint a different color in each room along the path to break down the barrier.

Design for Conflict
Does the stress from thinking about COVID and divorce catch you looking askance when your beloved says hurtful words because they are frightened?
• Run Through Kitchen. There is arguing between partners and loss of money for the household. Hang two 40 mm crystals from a red cord, one at each door to slow down the rapid movement of Ch’i.
• A Kitchen In Front Of The Front Door will drive a partner out of the house to eat in someone else’s kitchen. Or they will be distracted by events, activities or hobbies outside the house. Pull the kitchen to the back of the house with a convex mirror.
• A Bedroom In Front Of The Front Door, a partner will find love outside the house, perhaps leaving entirely.
•A Detached Garage in Partnership is when the garage or any enclosed detached building is set close to the Partnership gua of the house. One or both partners may seek attention, perhaps begin an affair outside the home.
• Extension In Knowledge suggests someone is not listening, they think they know more. Balance the house with an adjustment at the corner of Helpful People (in the yard) to complete the imbalance in the shape of the house.
• An Uneven House Shape, whether it favors either the male or the female will give one of the partners the advantage and the disadvantaged partner will harbor hard feelings and feel resentment.
• Beam Running Down The Center Of The Bed, the pressure can split a couple apart.
• Home at the end of a Cul-de-Sac, or near the end, the energy pools and does not circulate back out. Life may feel like a dead end. A couple’s luck, good fortune will diminish and communication will feel stuck in a loop.

The feedback from clients who have adjusted the Feng Shui in their homes say they love the spirit of cooperation when performing the cures. The process helps them feel more compassion for the needs of their partner, their communication improves and it engenders a deeper connection. Love resurfaces when couples make adjustments with the intention to cre