photo credit: de zeen; bed design: Fabio Novembre

“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds.”
– The Notebook

I love that we have a day set aside that reminds us that the other 364 days are opportunities to share what is important – creating trust, communicating honestly, speaking your partner’s love language, giving positive feedback and building a life together with the support of Feng Shui. Giving and receiving love from the one we hold in high esteem is heart healing. And what have we come here to be than to be love?

“40 years.” she said, “I love him but our communication has slipped into ‘two ships passing in the night’.” Sometimes the simplest decision can have the biggest impact. It’s my job to listen intently. The Feng Shui solution was a headboard, a sturdy one. They ran with it. They chose one together, they put it up together and immediately the husband started the pillow talk – sweet, refreshing love words – like a cool Italian fountain on a hot Florence day. 

When my client told me her story and then reiterated the Feng Shui adjustment had improved her relationship, I felt inspired and motivated to share a Feng Shui refresher. I believe it could set us all on the right trajectory in 2020. Enjoy!

• Make the earth move for you. If your relationship has cooled off because you are worried about finances (self-employed?), place your bed on a 45 degree angle. The angle will move the Ch’i… then look out your  worry will change to balancing work and life pleasures.
• Nurture your relationship. Place nine lush plants in the bedroom. Distractions will deplete your stamina. The plants’ vitality will lift your Ch’i giving you the focus to show your partner how much you care. 
• Freshen the air. Purchase a diffuser. Include in your purchase a stimulating aroma like sweet orange essential oil. Ylang Ylang is a scent that draws lovers together. Add a few drops with black pepper (yes, it’s perfect for sexual intimacy) into the diffuser and percolate your romance. 
• Texture initiates the senses. Satin or 300 count cotton sheets shift your attention to your affections. We rely heavily on our sense of sight to excite. Green is invigorating, yellow is comforting, a deep pink hue is invitational, chocolate brown satisfies both partners tastes. Enjoy the sensation of how these initiate a night that satisfies your desires. 
• Good communication. Your relationship will last with the best headboard money can buy. Preferably solid wood but slats are acceptable too. Make sure the headboard is securely fastened. It connects the two sides of the bed so it connects you and your partner. And a little secret to help the Ch’i flow, make sure your mattress is up off of the floor.
• Take command. Place your bed so you can see the door but not in line of the door. However if that’s not possible because your bed is on the same wall as the door, add a standing fashion mirror and watch the tension and headaches melt away.
• Back on the dating scene? If you want your pick of possible partners, widen your field of possibilities by hanging a convex mirror in the partnership corner of your bedroom or house. The meaning of a convex mirror is to take in a broad view or expand your view. You can place this in either your bedroom or the main floor of the house.
• Detest pink? In general men do not want a pink bedroom. Attract a new partner with placing the Five Element colors (green, red, yellow, white and black) in a balanced proportion in your bedroom. Select furnishings and accessories along with paint choice that contain these colors. You can decorate  with these anywhere in the house. Now add your intention to make it stick. Once you find your partner, the Five Elements creates stability in your partnership because combining all five covers all the basis.
• Rice is nice. If you want to enhance your relationship or attract a partner, ask your Chinese friends who’s getting married then off you go to the wedding ceremony. If they use cinnabar rice or any rice take it home in a red envelope. Place it in your car, or on your desk or in your child’s room. It is not only auspicious Ch’i of a wedding but auspicious Ch’i of all kinds. Your child will benefit, you and whomever rides in your car will be safe and it can benefit your career. For your partnership place the red envelope in the partnership area of your bedroom. Visualize creating the good fortune, health and abundance that shine forth on a wedding day.

Flowers, chocolates, a massage send the right message but what could be better than doing something extra for love, https://shenmenfengshui.com/matters-heart-six-feng-shui-details-make-love-last/

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