“As the wind loves to call things to dance,
May your gravity be lightened by grace…”
– John O’Donahue, To Bless The Space Between Us: A Book of Blessings
Love showers the world in February. In the northern hemisphere the return of longer days brightens dreams and invokes a renewal in the heart. Our homes are the perfect space to create new beginnings. It is especially fortuitous to design a new love story. In the place of Wind we can call things to dance; in the place of Earth we can restore who we are; and in the place of Water we can shape our futures. In this blog I share reminders and you’ll receive new insights to take your creative genius to your home and author a distinct living space with Feng Shui.
Love Yourself First
Let your personality shine in your bedroom’s decor while giving it a Feng Shui make-over. Place your bed in command. Move feet from pointing out the door. Think of color as something to savor. Reds are exciting but short lived sending you to exhaustion. What are your favorite colors and foods? Lavender, daffodil, meadow green, whipped creams, dreamy mocha and rich chocolate brown? They will soothingly stimulate your senses. Accessories with accent colors add joy. Leave the laptop out of the bedroom and relegate the TV, exercise equipment and computer to their respective places. Minimize cell phone/blue light activity. Your nervous system will relax and you will sleep better at night. Remove boxes or benches, (there is an adjustment for a foot board that is too high. Nine red envelopes requested if you ask for the cure) in front of the bed or you may find yourself in one accident after another. The space in front of your bed is your future and should be deep. Gather in good luck by placing a large rectangular mirror across from the bed. Don’t cut off anyone’s head or chin while sitting in bed and the road ahead will be bright and promising.
Invite A Partner
Now that you have a baseline of self care here are a few adjustments to attract a partner. Make sure there is a door between the bathroom and bedroom or you might not be able to find a partner. Want a variety of suitors to choose from? A convex mirror takes in a wide view so hang it in the Partnership corner of your bedroom. Not fond of pink? Design your bedroom with the Five Element colors (green, red, yellow, white and black) in balanced proportion – you will have your bases covered. Go out of the house for this one. Find a wedding and grab the rice that has been thrown onto the ground (work but worth it) insert it into a red envelope. Place this in your car or on your desk. It is not only auspicious wedding Ch’i but auspicious Ch’i of all kinds. Visualize creating the good fortune, health and abundance that shine forth on a wedding day. Select a healthy pink or purple orchid (silk might be even better because it is ever blooming) for your Partnership gua. The orchid symbolizes a partner who is refined but more important just right for you. The nuance is that pink, the color of the Relationship area, adds emphasis, you know, mojo.
Cherish Your Beloved
You’ve got this. Here’s how to keep the chemistry flowing. King size bed? Wrap the mattress in a red sheet (measure from the head to the end of the bed then down to the mattress. Double this then round up to a multiple of nine when measuring the fabric). This joins the mattresses transcendentally. Watch discord melt away. Support your relationship with strength and safety, add a headboard if your bed is missing one. It holds the two sides of the bed as one improving communication. Nine lush plants will invigorate your life force and love life. In the I-Ching the Partnership gua is about receiving, being open, surrendering and allowing. To empower your love make the trigram for “The Receptive’ (the name for the Partnership gua). Cut out three broken (two lines across and three down) lines on red paper. Adhere these to a solid piece of paper and place on your altar for nine nights. On the tenth day place between your mattress and box springs in the top right corner. If the path to the bedroom is difficult (cluttered, dark, narrow or blocked) there may be lethargy and arguments. Do what is required to open the pathway and add beautiful items along the way like rose petals or an image of a place that you both love. Adding a complete color system to your room, for example, the rainbow colors, (red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo and violet), you carry the frequencies of these seven colors. This spectrum mirrors the chakra system, the life force centers and creates homeostasis, giving you and your partner the energy to explore all possibilities in and outside the bedroom.
Quell Conflict
You love each other but have difficulty living under the same roof? Feng Shui indicates design and lot shape plus landscaping influence your love life. If the kitchen is in front of the front door, you or your partner may be away a lot or distracted by things outside the house, (soccer mom, playing golf). Or one of you might be eating in someone else’s kitchen. Place a convex mirror in the back of your home to pull the kitchen to the back. Place bamboo anywhere in the house to promote fidelity. Piercing Heart Doors are three or more doors that line up. You can recognize them as entrances to different rooms in the house. A couple may be sleeping in the same bed but dreaming their own dreams. Use color to break down the barrier, like paint the interior door frame a different color or hang two 40 mm crystals, one in each room, along the visual line created by the three doors. Plant a pear tree for it sounds like “partnership” in Chinese and symbolizes the act of sharing love. A beam over your heart crossing the bed places pressure on the heart that can lead you and your partner to argue, even over seemingly insignificant details. Move the bed if possible or hang nine 40mm crystals (either 9 or 18 inches from the bottom of the beam) to lift the beam off of the bed. Sound can be very effective where there is conflict. If your relationship has escalated to feuding, place a wind chime in the bedroom to get the “sounds” of conflict and discord out of your systems. If your home office is in Partnership, it can harm both your relationship and career. You might work too much and not pay attention to your partner. Business may suffer because, as Professor said, “others may come to tell you how pretty you are rather than concentrate on business”. Place a vase and flute (together these are a rebus for peace and prosperity) in the office. Make sure the root end is in the vase and the mouth piece at the top. Visualize that business is business and partnership is partnership. Avoid planting a weeping willow in the backyard. In Wealth money may be lost. In Fame power may dissipate. In Partnership a marriage may come apart. In Chinese weeping willow sounds like “to slip away”. Your wealth or spouse may exit the back door.
The Wind loves to call things to dance…place a windmill or large pinwheel in your yard in the Wealth gua to help get things moving. Place a bench or a lovely container with seasonal pink flowers in the Partnership gua, the Earth gua. Spend time there and you will reinforce your grace and connection to yourself. Place a fountain in Career gua (Water) in the front of the house with the water facing inward (into the fountain). Shui, water, stimulates positive Ch’i and this attracts opportunities for your you, your partner and family.
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