Crouching Tiger, Hurtful Words. Feng Shui Relationship Advice Saves A Couple’s Love.

You may be conscious of what you put in your tummy and how it makes you feel, but do you know that a picture hanging in your home can turn a pleasant mood into anger? A fine art print or painting may be executed beautifully but if the image is violent, it impacts not only your sense of safety and well being but your partner’s as well. Here is Mary’s story about seeking relationship advice. When I consult for a client, after I arrive at their home, we sit down, talk about the floor plan and discuss the goals they want to accomplish. Mary was living alone and renting. She was quiet about her life, all she really revealed was she wanted more income. Her dream was to sell her jewelry and earn a good living at it. She was very talented but didn’t feel confident in her abilities. When we started touring her home I saw a Chinese silk painting of  fighting tigers in her bedroom. It was in her Partnership corner. When I asked about her relationship, she started describing the problems with her current boyfriend in detail: argumentative, hurtful, close to violent. I pointed to the claws and said there is part of your problem. Tigers will fight to the death. Those claws had turned into fighting words and she was ready to throw in the towel. I recommended she retire the image. After I left, she immediately took it down. Mary was very motivated and followed the cures I gave her. Once she selected the color that pleased her eye, she painted the room. It was a beautiful, Benjamin Moore, “dusk pink”, a Partnership color. She added plants to bring life force and more oxygen for clear thinking. She hung a round mirror above the bed so there would be no rough edges to the communication between she and her partner. Mary also placed a light at the front door to help with clarity as the entry represents the head. Right away a change ocurred. It was a miracle in her eyes. Her boyfriend stopped acting moody and defensive. She stopped being apologetic. The words between them softened and they started listening to each other again. They worked out their differences. Mary gained confidence. She asked for a raise where she worked and the owner invited her to display her jewelry. Her good luck came back.

The Ba-gua, the Feng Shui octagon, is a time tested method to evaluate the energy fluctuations in a home (ex. a stairway is a design detail with up and down movement. When it is in the wealth gua, it will create instability around money. You may not know when you will get paid or you lose money easily). The eight sided shape is used as a template and superimposed onto a client’s floor plan because it symbolizes important life situations: career, knowledge, family, prosperity, reputation, partnership, children, helpful people (with health in the center). The Ba-gua reveals how these life situations interact. Angularity of walls, color, furniture arrangement, decorations and art in one area will affect another area but equally all who live under the roof or who come in contact with the space. When Mary confessed to her problems with her boyfriend she was able to see the influence of her choice in art. This discovery was the piece that saved her mind.

One thing I have discovered about our homes is that creating a heart healthy space leads to peace and contentment. The bedroom is where it begins. Start with my complimentary pdf: 27 Bedroom Concepts To Maximize Your Health, Happiness and Peace of Mind. Design your space to your best advantage. Subscribe to my blog and special offers. You’ll receive this valuable Feng Shui Guide as a thank you gift.

 

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